“A strong woman understands that the gifts such as logic, decisiveness, and strength are just as feminine as intuition and emotional connection. She values and uses all of her gifts.” (Nancy Rathburn)
Women are strong when they choose to be, and when they no other choice. Usually this encompasses about 90% of life.
Most of the women I know are incredibly strong, amazingly loving and they keep the trains running on time. They make the men and other women around them look good. They do their job — at home and at work — without worrying who gets credit. Sometime this serves them well, sometime not. If you are a strong woman working with an insecure male supervisor, look out. It’s likely that you can’t dial it down enough not to be threatening.
So what is to be done?
We have to stop fooling around. Don’t buy into the script that says if you come across as too strong, you will be seen as a “b$*ch.” Be as stong as you need to be. Be who you are. Do what you are called to be.
Men will adjust. It will take time, but it will happen. Just keep smiling.
Sometimes we equate being strong as not being nice. You can be very nice. And you can be strong at the same time. But if you have to choose, be strong, be bold, be authentic.
Stop fooling around.