Life is not about how fast you run or how high you climb but how well you bounce. (Vivian Komori)
Ok. So I’m not perfect. I set out to write/post a blog post every day for a year. Well, on Saturday, I forgot. Truly. Just plain forgot. I led a half day retreat in New York City, and then we had an event at my husband’s church. I woke up at 4am just to remember that I forgot. As for yesterday, well, it was Sunday, we were traveling, and I had a killer headache. Judge if you must, but nobody died because I failed to post in my blog for two days.
So, just think, you too could fail! We all do it at one point or another. We set out with the best of intentions, we do really, really well, and then life intrudes and we miss the mark. Unless you are a firefighter, or an astrophysicist working on a space mission, or an ER doctor/nurse — most of us do not put others lives in danger if we have an off day. So own it. Just remember to bounce.
The important thing about failure is not whether, when or why it happens — it does. We may feel that we fail at times through no fault of our own. At other times, we know it’s all our fault. It’s not about whose fault it is, it’s about how quickly we get ourselves back on track.
What goals are you shooting for? What New Year’s resolution did you start three months ago that has gone by the wayside? Is it time to pick that back up, dust it off and decide what it would take to make it happen? Call it your spring resolution. It’s not just about setting goals, but setting out what it will take to meet the goals we set. Do we have the social support that we need? Do we have the tools? What do we need to put in place to make success more likely? What would it take to do that?
It’s about this time — three months in — when we can no longer achieve our goals through sheer power of will. We can usually make it through the first 90 days, or close to it. This is why when you are beginning in a recovery program for substance abuse, they will tell you that you need to make 90 meetings in 90 days. You need to exercise that “will” muscle. You need to establish a habit. You need to create community with others in your AA meetings, so that they will notice that you are not there. If you are serious about changing your life, you need to make 90 in 90.
What do you want to change in your life? Where do you need to bounce?
So it’s not important whether or not you fail. It’s more important that you get back up and start again. So here goes. I’m back on track. Keep reading. More wisdom to come.